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What is Selective Mutism?

In short, selective mutism is a phobia of speaking.

Selective Mutism (SM) is an anxiety-based disorder that causes individuals to be unable to speak in specific settings or with specific listeners despite the ability to speak fully and freely when they are in a comfortable setting and/or with comfortable listeners. There is a common misconception that individuals with SM are choosing not to talk. Selective mutism is a phobia of speaking. It is not a choice.

SM often coexists with other areas of individual differences, such as; anxiety disorders, speech/language disorders, sensory integration disorders, difficulty sleeping, difficulty eating/toileting in public.

SM is often identified in the preschool years when a child first goes to school and she/he/they are not able to speak to teachers and/or peers. More mild cases may not be identified until the late adolescent or teenage years. Though this can feel like a difficult time for school teams and parents, there are wonderful resources available and with appropriate supports in place, an individual at any age can find their voice. It’s never too late!

There are different approaches for treating SM. Within an integrated behavioral approach, the support process often includes more than one therapeutic component. Frequent support components include counseling with a clinical psychologist, medication consultation, and management with a psychiatrist, and brave voice work with a speech-language pathologist. An occupational therapist may also be a part of the team if there is a coexisting sensory integration disorder.

If it is left untreated, selective mutism can severely impact a child’s self-esteem, self-concept, social development, and education. SM is best supported by a knowledgeable team of providers and active parental and school involvement.

To learn more, visit SMA (Selective Mutism Association).

Do you know a child who may have selective mutism?

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Selective Mutism Services

Annie DiVello Consulting - School-Based Support

Comprehensive School-Based Evaluations

I provide school-based selective mutism evaluations to help teams to comprehensively understand their student(s) speech inhibition, anxiety, functional emotional developmental capacities, and pragmatic language specific to the school setting.

Annie DiVello Consulting - Consultative Supports

Consultative Supports for School Teams

I provide a vast array of consultative services to help school teams best support their student(s) with selective mutism. My support may be on-site, remote, or a combination. All consults are customizable to meet each team’s various needs.

In-Services for School Teams

I provide customizable two-hour in-services for a variety of different entities. These trainings include a brief clinical overview of selective mutism and information about selective mutism as it relates to the school setting.

Annie DiVello Consulting - Trainings

Half or Full-Day Trainings for School Teams

I provide half and full-day trainings on the topics, “Understanding Selective Mutism in the Educational Setting” and “Treating Selective Mutism in the Educational Setting.” These trainings are team-based and intended to empower schools to best understand and support their student(s) with selective mutism.

Annie's SM courses, both 101 and 102, were both so informative and helpful. I am working with my first student diagnosed with SM, and after taking these courses I felt prepared and excited for this new journey. Annie's willingness to listen to questions, have conversations during the courses and overall expertise and knowledge made these webinars a truly wonderful experience. Thank you Annie!

May 2020

Annie DiVello has been instrumental in helping us navigate our daughter's diagnosis of selective mutism. She has supported us in every way! We have been able to meet all the needs of our daughter and her improvements have been remarkable. She truly treats the whole child and has helped us coordinate support in the school setting and educated us in how to support our daughter in the community. Annie has come to our home, to our daughter's school, has done "brave outings" with us in the community, and facilitated friendship groups to help our daughter navigate tricky social communication. My daughter loves working with Annie which really helps motivate her to tackle the hard work she needs to do to find her brave voice. Annie has also spent so much time fielding my questions and worries! She always goes above and beyond! We have learned so much and couldn't have done it without Annie! We are so lucky to have such a wonderful and amazing professional in our area. I will never be able to express how thankful I am for all of Annie's help and guidance!

March 2019

Finding Annie has been a godsend for our entire family. We had a feeling that our daughter had Selective Mutism, after discovering she was not talking at preschool. We didn’t know what to do and didn’t know anyone else whose children had gone through this. After finding Annie and getting started with a diagnosis and treatment plan, we feel an immense sense of relief. We are not alone! Annie goes above and beyond what you would expect and is SO good at what she does. We have had such a wonderful experience.

2018

I attended a workshop given by the clinicians at New England Pediatric Services and later engaged Annie DiVello to provide consultative support to my school team around selective mutism. Annie is exceptionally knowledgeable and was able to share information with my school team in a thorough and sensitive manner, meeting the needs of both school staff and family. Annie has been an invaluable resource, providing flexible supports that take into consideration our team’s individual needs, meeting team members where they are at and moving forward. She is a collaborator who is able to skillfully merge her knowledge and expertise with the realities that exist within the confines of the public school setting. Her consultative support has been invaluable.

June 2018

I am a third grade teacher in a seacoast NH school. In September, I met a new student diagnosed with selective mutism. She did not speak at all in the classroom or respond to any staff in the building. Behind closed doors, she would speak with her Speech and Language Teacher and several close friends during lunchtime meetings. She attended sessions with Annie throughout our school year. Annie instructed me on a sequence of goals to set for the student beginning with one word responses during math class, and progressing to small rehearsed sentences over the course of a few months. Currently, the student is participating naturally in class meetings and speaking in multiple sentences that are unrehearsed. During our Science Fair, she volunteered to read her poster to her peers and for TEN minutes taught her peers about arctic animals in a voice audible across the room! It was a truly miraculous achievement and a joy to witness. A heart felt "thank you" to the wonderful efforts of Annie.

June 2017

Our experience with Annie has been nothing short of a miracle. Our son has struggled with SM for 5 years and we’ve struggled just as much to find anyone that has any expertise in helping him. The first time I talked to Annie, I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. She was the first person we’ve ever talked to that truly had an idea as to what our son was going through and how to help him. We had our team meeting with our son’s school this week and Annie drove 2 hours, both ways, to be there with us. We cannot thank her enough for her devotion to helping our child. There are no words to describe how relieved and grateful my wife and I are that we found Annie. We feel hopeful about the future for the first time since our son was diagnosed.

2017

I cannot sing the praises of Annie DiVello and the team at New England Pediatrics loud enough. As a speech and language assistant having no prior experience with Selective Mutism, I am incredibly grateful to have had the guidance of a specialist in the field when a student with SM moved into district almost 3 years ago. Annie has helped me step by step to increase this child’s confidence and bring their “brave voice” into the school setting, giving me the tools needed to be a successful Key Worker along the way. Not only has she helped me to increase the student’s confidence, she has helped me to become more confident in my sessions with the student as well. Annie is always available to answer any questions I may have, and offers an unlimited amount of suggestions whenever I am feeling stuck. I can honestly say I don’t know where my student would be without her unwavering support.

2017

INCREDIBLE!!! I emailed from an island in Alaska in hopes of some information on SM and the quick response was shocking to me and the time Annie took with me on the phone and email was priceless. I am beyond grateful! I do not feel so alone anymore, I feel empowered -THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!

2016

Silence is the most powerful scream. Over the last few years, we have encountered more students with selective mutism. Annie has partnered with us and provided professional development that has had a profound impact on how we address our student needs. We didn't always recognize what a powerful form of communication silence is, and with her partnership, we are meeting the needs of these students to ensure they are making meaningful progress. Thanks for all you do Annie!

Sonya R.
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